Table Talk: He Can’t Make Up His Mind: How Long Do You Wait Around Before Kicking Him To The Curb?
While talking to a friend the other day, we sat for almost an hour trying to rationalize why the dude she had been seeing was acting different. He wasn’t calling like he used to, he was giving her the cold shoulder, and most importantly, he wasn’t sure if or when he wanted to be in a relationship. Apparently this had become a cycle. He would always tend to ‘get some act right’ or come back around when she was no longer giving him the time of day. After a while, this had become an irritating cycle, simply because he wasn’t sure about what he wanted.
Sometimes we tend to rationalize or attempt to analyze a man’s behavior. This rationalization or attempt at analyzing usually leaves us confused, upset, or looking crazy; but usually our ‘made up’ theories keep us from leaving the guy alone. Why? Because ultimately you rationalize in your head what makes you feel good. So if he’s trippin’ or giving mixed signals, sometimes we stick around because we’ve rationalized that his behavior may be a fault of our own.
One thing, I’ve learned is that if a man wants to be with you, he will. If he’s confused, allow him to be confused on his own. Then when or if he makes up his mind, you can give entertain him; but until then…
Ladies, how long before you kick a man to the curb if he’s uncertain about what he wants or gives you mixed signals?
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July 6th, 2011 at 9:14 am
When someone shows you who they are believe them. i don’t waste time trying to analyze. I give you a week to figure it out.
July 6th, 2011 at 10:02 am
I don’t wait. Life is too short to wait around for someone who isn’t sure.
July 6th, 2011 at 10:04 am
I was in a ‘friendship with benefits’ for about 2 years. I wasted so much time hoping he would come around. Of course he didn’t. If a man wants to be with you he knows. I am not about to sit and try to rationalize anything anymore. If he aint sure I keep it stepping. Simple as that.
July 6th, 2011 at 10:12 am
@Gifted1 if only it was that easy not to rationalize. Women rationalize by nature. It’s just how we are.
July 6th, 2011 at 11:10 am
Point Blank Period. If a man wants to be with you he will be with you. Everything else is stringin along
July 6th, 2011 at 1:53 pm
Wait around to get disappointed? I don’t think so. I’ll pass.
May 17th, 2012 at 11:40 pm
I really like this guy and he says he really likes me, I dont know if hes not making up his mind because we arent around each other right now or what but we will see each other every day starting in a couple of months. Should I kick him to the curb or wait around some more and just see if hes waiting till we see each other for gim to make his move? Please help im 17 by the way if anyone was wondering:)